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While suicide may never be the answer to any of life’s hardships, many people who are desperate and feel hopeless in their own situations tend to look at it as being the only way out of the position that they find themselves in, or from their mental troubles. As such, it is predicted that by 2020, one person will die from suicide every 20 seconds.

One such unfortunate soul to have met an untimely end by suicide was reportedly suffering from marital issues and financial debt before taking her life recently, as reported by China Press.

At an unspecified hotel in Genting on Saturday (12th October 2019), a 27-year-old Burmese woman was said to have jumped to her death from the 19th floor after facing financial difficulties and problems in her marriage.

Prior to committing suicide, the woman had sent messages to her friends on WeChat asking them to take good care of her daughter after she passes away. Screenshots of her WeChat conversation with a friend before she jumped have been circulating social media since the suicide was discovered.

“I only have RM1,000 left. I will be returning to Myanmar soon, once my daughter’s passport is ready. I’m afraid we will no longer be able to meet each other again.”

According to the WeChat correspondence, the woman said that she had lost up to RM200,000 due to a gambling problem, and only had RM1,000 left. She also expressed her disappointment in her marriage and her husband after they faced marital difficulties. 

“Marrying him was one of my biggest disappointments in life. I can see clearly now. I have let him go.”

Further correspondence sent on WeChat also mentioned that the woman had initially intended to return to Myanmar with her daughter after her passport had been processed, but wound up entrusting the care of the child to her friend afterwards. 

The deceased also asked her friend to send her a video of her daughter before she committed suicide, and tried to do so by taking a handful of pills. However, she later changed her mind and went up to the 19th floor of her hotel to jump to her death.

“I want to see her one last time. I’m afraid I’ll never get to see her again.”

The case is currently still under investigation by the local authorities.

Again, we have to remind all our readers that if you are facing any problems in your life, please reach out to speak to a friend or seek professional help. Suicide is never the answer. We extend our deepest condolences to the family of the deceased.-

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Perhaps one of the scariest things to encounter on a flight is a crying baby.

So much so that certain airlines are implementing child-free zones and flights, which would have most certainly helped to prevent the following ‘in-flight entertainment’.

A young couple and a mother started squabbling over the ruckus the latter’s child was making on a flight from Kuala Lumpur to Wuhan on Monday (Oct 7).

A person who filmed it explains that the baby had been crying ever since the lights in the plane were switched off.

Unable to tolerate the kid’s incessant noise any longer, a young couple in front turned around to ask whether the mother could do something about it.

“If you think you’re so good, don’t ever have children for the rest of your life,” the angry mother burst out yelling.

She continued to berate the pair non-stop, repeatedly announcing out loud that the two had no morals and cursing them never to have kids.

The mother explains herself in a later part of the video, saying that she was already doing her best in pacifying her child, therefore hearing the young couple’s words incensed her.

Netizens, however, were unimpressed with the mother’s explanation. Many believed that her tone was too harsh and she could have easily settled the situation by apologising, as her child was indeed disturbing other passengers.

“To be honest, she really was quite helpless. You can control a kid but not a baby. But the mother was a little rude.”
“People not having kids and your child disturbing people are two completely different matters. You say taking care of a child is difficult, but wasn’t it your choice to have one? Did these passengers force you to? You’ve disturbed others yet you’re so oblivious, even cursing others not to have kids.”
“Your child indeed disturbed others. You could have just apologised instead of saying such things.” PHOTOS: Screengrab/Weibo

Some were more empathetic towards the mother’s predicament, believing that certain things could only be understood when you’re a parent.

“Those who have been mothers would understand how helpless this mother was. Sometimes you just can’t placate the kids.”
“It is really difficult for a mother to bring her children out alone.”
“These young people are too much. They seem to think she didn’t care her child was cying. If a baby’s crying could be stopped immediately, why would being a parent be so tough? They’re young and don’t know anything, they can only cry.” PHOTOS: Screengrab/Weibo

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A mother and her young son were killed on a National Day ballooning trip over eastern China, The Beijing News reported on Thursday (Oct 3).

The incident took place in the Majiagou eco-tourism village near the city of Yantai in Shandong province on Tuesday. The report said a tether holding the balloon to the ground broke, and as the balloon rose it ruptured, sending the unnamed 31-year-old woman and the three-year-old boy – who were harnessed side-by-side – to their deaths.

They were the only passengers. Police said five people had been held in connection with the incident.

It is unclear from mobile phone footage published by newspaper how far the balloon and its passengers fell.

The report quoted emergency response authorities as saying the ride was illegal, and that they were investigating. All tourist activities in the Majiagou scenic area were temporarily suspended.

Tickets for the site over the week-long holiday cost 70 yuan (S$13.50) each and included a balloon ride, the attraction’s website said. The report said park staff promised refunds on all tickets.

“That balloon was not ours, but it happened on our land,” a member of Majiagou scenic area staff told The Beijing News.

“Police have determined that this is a criminal case. This is illegal, this balloon activity is unauthorised,” a member of the area’s management team was quoted as saying.

The Chinese government was urged to tighten restrictions on balloons after a crash in southern Guangxi autonomous region in 2009 claimed the lives of four Dutch tourists.

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She was apparently told that she might never become her mother because of her rare physical condition. But she defied those odds and successfully gave birth to four children! 

The miraculous 34-year-old Australian mother of four goes by the name of Lauren Cotter, and at just 16 years old, she was diagnosed with uterus didelphys, a rare condition which affects only 3,000 women across the globe.

According to Daily Mail, the condition occurs when the uterus fails to fuse properly during development in the womb. As a result, Cotter was born with two uteruses, two cervixes and yes, two vaginas!

Since her wombs and cervixes were half the size of an average woman’s, Cotter was told that carrying and giving birth to children would be an issue.

But the Melbourne-born primary school teacher and her 33-year-old husband, Ben, knew they wanted kids.

“From quite early, on Ben and I discussed having children and it was clear that he really wanted to be a dad. I knew I had to be open and honest and tell him that might not be a possibility for me.”

While the odds weren’t in their favour, the couple still underwent several successful pregnancies and ending up becoming parents to five-year-old Amelie, three-year-old Harvey, and adorable 15-month-old twins, Maya and Evie!

She reportedly carried all the girls in her right womb, while her only son, Harvey, grew in her left.

Cotter says she actually didn’t have any difficulty falling pregnant, telling the publication,

“Actually, we have found it easy to fall pregnant – I am not sure why, or if it has anything to do with my two vaginas.”

Nonetheless, she was told that miscarriages and stillbirths were still likely to occur given the size of her wombs. As she braced herself for the worst, Cotter and Ben were shocked to find themselves pregnant after just a month of trying for a baby!

“We decided to give it a go, and just see what would happen. We knew it might be a bumpy road and tried not to get our hopes up too much.

Just a month after we started trying, I bought a stack of pregnancy tests and started taking them weekly.

I couldn’t be sure, so I took a test each morning that week, and each day the line got darker and darker until I was sure – we were pregnant.”

Her first pregnancy went smoothly and baby Amelie came into the world via C-section. The couple soon tried for baby number two 18 months later, and Harvey was born!

Being a young mother of two, Cotter said she decided to have a contraceptive implant, as advised by her consultant.

The implant was supposedly 99% effective but Cotter again proved that she was an exception to the norm. Just three weeks after the contraceptive was fitted, she was pregnant again with twins! When asked whether the recent pregnancy surprised her, she said:

“Shocked doesn’t begin to cover it. During 17 years together, Ben and I had only ever got pregnant when we’d planned it. Now, here we were, having surprise twins.”

Maya and Evie were born just after 37 weeks and while they initially seemed healthy, drama began to unfold as Evie faced difficulties breathing and was sent to the ICU.

Soon, an X-ray of her lungs revealed that she had congenital diaphragmatic hernia, which happens when a baby is born with their intestines inside the chest cavity. As a five-day-old baby, she had to go through a keyhole surgery and doctors warned Cotter that there was a limited chance of survival.

Nonetheless, Evie, like her mother, defied the odds and fully recovered! The 15-month-old twins are now the centre of the family’s “crazy, hectic and amazing” life.

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A 6-year-old boy recently made the news after he lodged a police report about his parents’ very violent argument that turned physical.

According to See Hua Daily, this incident occurred in Zhejiang, China, when the boy’s father went home drunk one night. He asked his wife to hand her phone to him so he could “check”, but she deliberately refused, resulting in an intense argument between the two of them.

The argument quickly escalated into a physical abuse when the drunk man began strangling his wife. WTF.

His wife did not back down as she picked up a hairdryer from the desk and hurled it at him. Their poor son witnessed the entire process without them realising (or caring for that matter), and he quickly ran out of his home to get help from the police. We assume that he ran to the nearest police station.

Yangyang, the boy, did so because he recalled that his kindergarten teacher told him to get help from the police whenever danger arises. He told the police,

“My dad started it (the physical attack) first. He was drunk when he asked to see my mum’s phone. But because mum didn’t want to, he hit her.”

The boy also mentioned that one of his parents bled from the fight, although the details weren’t reported.

The police officer then followed Yangyang home, and lo and behold, the couple was STILL FIGHTING. This means they weren’t even aware that their 6-year-old son ran away from home! The police gave the couple a stern warning, and they apologised to each other in the end.

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Police in eastern China have detained a woman after she allegedly beat her seven-year-old daughter to death over her table manners.

Public security officers in Zouping county, Shandong province, said the girl died in hospital at around 7pm on Saturday after being admitted with severe bruising.

The mother was detained on Sunday and an investigation was under way, police said.

According to the Qilu Evening News, the mother beat the child with an iron bar because she was annoyed by the way the girl was eating her lunch on Saturday.

The mother reportedly warned the girl that she would beat her if she continued to eat slowly and, after several warnings, asked her husband to leave the room.

“I did not dare to stop my wife. She also hit me when I tried to stop her from beating the child,” the father was quoted as saying.

He said that when he returned to the room, the girl’s body was covered in bruises and wounds. He tried to take her to hospital but the mother stopped him, the father reportedly said.

The child’s condition worsened and he eventually took her to hospital at about 5pm, the report said.

Despite emergency medical treatment, the girl died about two hours later.

Her funeral was held on Tuesday afternoon, news site Sohu reported.

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Almost every night for several years, Marlo Dean has helped her son to bed, then stayed awake listening for the machines that alert her when his breathing is off.

She then rises before dawn, helping young Dante’ Herrera get ready for a new day. Most of his hearing is gone and he struggles to speak or walk.

Family members sometimes tell Dean they don’t know how she does it.

Her response: Dante’ is the strongest fighter around. How could she not sacrifice everything to help her youngest son?

“Dante’ is the love of my life,” she says. “That’s my buddy, my best friend.”

Dean knew something was wrong with her son when he was an infant.

Though three older siblings walked before they turned one, Dante’ didn’t take his first steps until he was 18 months old.

He was rambunctious though. So much so that physicians first thought he might have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

It wasn’t until Dante’ was about two years old that a doctor mentioned a horrific possibility: That he might have a disease that affects his brain.

Years of inconclusive tests from different hospital systems followed.

Finally, when her son was six, Dean received a devastating phone call from Children’s Hospital of The King’s Daughters.

She was heartbroken. But both she and Dante’ found a new resolve.

For more than a decade, their mission has been to advocate for children everywhere like him who are fighting for their lives.

Teacher assistant Cindy Wheeler working with Batten disease patient Dante’ Herrera on a modified tricycle during an exercise teaching about different kinds of energy at Salem High School in Virginia Beach, Virginia, United States, on March 21, 2019. (Kristen Zies/The Virginian-Pilot/TNS)

Inspired to fight

It was in elementary (primary) school that Dante’ first needed a wheelchair, though he could still walk. Now, he can stand with assistance, but primarily uses the wheelchair.

When he was younger, it was difficult to understand him when he talked, his mother says. Now at 17, he can speak, but expresses himself largely through gestures.

Dante’ depends on about 20 pills a day, and he visits doctors at least once a week. That’s in addition to nurses who help his mother take care of him almost daily.

Sleep is often a struggle for Dante’. When he is in bed, a machine monitors his vital signs. When it beeps, Dean checks on her son. She sometimes needs to drive him to a hospital.

Through the highs and lows, faith has kept her strong. “I’m going to take care of him because God gave him to me,” she says.

Eleven years ago, Dante’ was diagnosed with Batten disease – a common name for a range of rare, inherited nervous system disorders.

According to the US National Institutes of Health, it stems from a genetic defect that triggers a cascade of problems.

The progressive illness affects an estimated two to four out of every 100,000 children in the United States. Common symptoms include loss of vision and motor skills, seizures, dementia and abnormal movements.

Many with the disease die in early childhood. Some may live into their teens or their 30s.

“Everything will slowly fail,” says Tracy Kirby, family liaison for the Batten Disease Support and Research Association.

This nonprofit organisation helps families deal with diagnoses and offers free admission into annual conferences, which serve as both pep rallies for emotional support and learning experiences.

It also connects them with needed equipment like wheelchairs.

People should treat children with the disease no differently than healthy youngsters because little ones who are ill recognise what’s going on around them, she says. “They know that you’re there,” she adds.

In addition to the regular symptoms, children may develop behaviour changes, learning difficulties, anxiety and trouble sleeping.

“I’ve spent many, many, many countless nights staying up watching over Dante’, unable to breathe or even get up and go to the bathroom without falling,” Dean says.

“It’s definitely an uphill battle.”

When Dean learned about her son’s disease, she decided she wasn’t going to let the crisis crush her or Dante’.

A short time later, she found out about an event in Washington about rare diseases. She didn’t have much time – the gathering was that week.

She didn’t have a hotel and hadn’t signed up, but decided to go. She set up a fundraising page, made a few T-shirts and took her son north.

“We were going to do something,” she says.

Dante’ and Dean met other families dealing with the disease. They came away feeling less alone. They were also inspired to educate people about rare illnesses.

PJ Caalim met Dante’ and his mother when they were all in Washington several years ago for advocacy work. Caalim has a son with a rare disease that causes the body to reject food.

Caalim saw Dante’ smile and couldn’t help but say hello. She quickly learned they lived near each other in Virginia Beach, Virginia.

Dean, 49, is a “Godly woman” who is always positive, Caalim says. That attitude and her determination do wonders when they’re raising awareness.

Dante’s positive attitude also helps, Caalim says. “It could be the worst day in the world and he’s still smiling,” she says.

Raising awareness

Dante’ doesn’t get a lot of youngsters seeking him out and asking to play. But he likes video games, making friends and watching television.

He enjoys a good laugh when he watches his favourite cartoons SpongeBob SquarePants and Tom and Jerry.

In April 2019, Dean took Dante’ on a wild outdoor animal safari in Georgia for his 17th birthday. He pointed excitedly as the exotic creatures poked their heads inside the family’s van.

When the group passed a camel, someone joked about it being hump day. Dante’ let out a bellowing laugh. “He’s a party animal,” Dean says.

Dante’ recently finished his sophomore (second) year at Salem High School where he took visual arts teacher Amanda Smith’s class.

He is like other teenagers in a lot of ways, she says.

Smith, who coaches softball, brought her junior varsity players to a March event at the school that was raising awareness for rare disabilities.

She wanted them to see what some of their peers endure on a day-to-day basis.

As the season ran through the spring, players did their part by wearing denim ribbons that Dean had given out on their equipment bags.

Such acts go a long way for anyone with a rare disease, Dean says. “When you see Dante’ in the halls, guys, say ‘Hi’ to him,” his mother said.

At that March event, Dante’ stood to meet political dignitaries. He also posed for photos. Even as he struggled to force himself upright, he beamed.

That spirit is the epitome of Dante’, Salem principal Matthew Delaney says.

“Dante’ proves to all of us that each day is not only a great day, but it’s a gift that should be treasured,” he says.

Dante’ used to be a patient of Virginia Governor Dr Ralph Northam, who began practising paediatric neurology at Children’s Hospital of The King’s Daughters.

Dr Northam has declared June as Batten disease awareness month in Virginia.

Tears swell in Dean’s eyes when she thinks about Dante’s future. He’ll miss out on many typical youthful joys. He’ll never drive a car. He may never find romantic love.

But Dante’ is determined, she says. He can still raise awareness for rare disabilities just by being himself. And he is going to do that as long as he can.

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On Thursday afternoon at the one-floor house of Nguyễn Thị Liên’s family in Nghệ An Province’s Nghi Lộc District, things were a little more crowded than usual.

Relatives and neighbours were packed in, as this was the day a very special person would return home.

For 24 years Liên had not seen her daughter Lê Thị Lan after she had been trafficked to China.

The weather outside may have been scorching hot, but nobody was leaving. This was a special day, a day to remember.

Lan hardly had chance to get out of the car before her mother held her tight. This time, she didn’t want to let go.

“I thought that I would never see her again,” 69-year-old Liên said as tears rolled down her cheek.

“I couldn’t sleep last night because I kept thinking of the moment my daughter come back,” she said.

“My family want to express our sincere thanks to the media who have helped spread news about my daughter that lead to the reunion.”

Nguyễn Thị Thu, Liên’s neighbour, said she and other residents in the locality thought she was no longer alive.

“We couldn’t believe that Lan would return home. Everyone is very happy and congratulating Lan’s family,” she said.

Being the eldest child in a poor family of six children, when she was 19, Lan went to work as hired labour in Nghĩa Đàn (another district in Nghệ An Province) to support the family.

But she was tricked and taken to neighbouring Thanh Hóa Province before transported to China’s Guangxi Province and sold to a 65-year-old man for VNĐ7 million (S$410).

After 13 years living together with him, Lan had four children with that man, three daughters and a son.

During that time, Lan was regularly beaten and abused by her husband. She tried to flee many time but did not succeed. She even locked up in a dark room.

She was given drugs so that she gradually loss her memory.

Then, Lan was sold to another man, who she has been living for 11 years now.

This man, who is 43 years, treated her very well.

Two years ago, Lan asked her husband to allow her to return hometown in Việt Nam. Her husband accepted and even gave her some money but she was tricked out of her cash and never made it home.

Early in July, Lan met a Vietnamese woman who was living in China. This proved to be a turning point as that woman, from Hòa Bình Province, helped uploaded a video of Lan on Facebook with the hope that she could contact with her family.

The video was widely shared and seen by Đặng Thị Thảo, Lan’s sister-in-law.

Although the woman spoke Vietnamese not fluently, she still remembered the names of her parents, her hometown and expresses her desire to return to her family, Thảo recalled.

“At first I did not recognise her, but when I heard she talk about the home address, the names of parents, sisters and brothers, I knew it was my sister-in-law,” she said.

Once it was confirmed that the woman in the video was Lan, the family reached out and helped Lan recover her memory.

The family has reported the incident to the police with the hope that authorities would do their best to bring Lan back to Việt Nam as soon as possible.

“We persistently encouraged and set up a contact group between the family, the police and Lan. Gradually, Lan trusted the Vietnamese agency and the Chinese authorities.”

Only then, could we only bring Lan back home,” he said.

Nghệ An police and authorities were trying to find and support victims returning to their homeland, he said.

Regarding to Lan’s case, the provincial police department would collect documents and verify her testimony to continue the investigation.

Statistics from the criminal police division showed between 12-14 human trafficking cases occurred in the province each year. About 90 per cent of victims were trafficking to China and forced to be sex workers or told to marry foreign men.

From November 2015 to April 2018, 34 human trafficking cases were detected resulting in the arrest of 57 suspects.

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The police have arrested Siti Wakidah, 30, for allegedly killing her son, identified only as 6-year-old F, in Boyolali, East Java, after the boy’s body was exhumed and signs of abuse were found.

“The police exhumed the grave to confirm the cause of death. Local residents who took care of the body initially found signs of abuse, such as bruises all over the body,” Boyolali Police criminal investigation unit chief First Insp. Mulyanto said on Wednesday.

The boy was found dead at his home in Tanduk village, Ampel, on July 11. One of the neighbours, Subroto, 45, said the boy’s mother came to his house in a panic and said her son was dead.

He said Siti did not elaborate on her son’s cause of death. At the time, the boy’s father, Iwan Sri Widadi, 45, was away for work.

“At the time Mbak Siti said that her son fell. Local residents took care of the body. After the boy’s father came home from work, we buried the body in Semarang,” Subroto said.

He said after burying the body, locals discussed the possible cause of F’s death as they had noticed bruises all over the body. Local residents were also suspicious because the boy’s mother had answered vaguely when asked how her son had died.

Local residents then reported the case to the police.

Boyolali Police chief Sr. Adj. Comr. Kusumo Wahyu Bintoro said Siti had confessed that she had often abused her son, from yelling, pinching and punching to banging the boy’s head against a cupboard.

“The autopsy showed that the victim’s cause of death was bleeding and trauma to the head. We are questioning both parents. At this stage, the mother is the only suspect,” Kusumo said.

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In a tweet that recently went viral on 7th June, user @AmrulFrdaus shared how he recently helped his mother when they went out shopping in a mall. The tweet has since garnered over 26,000 retweets.

Sharing a photo of his mother’s heels on his feet and his sandals on his mother’s feet, his post translates, “My mother’s feet began to hurt because of the heels she was wearing. To summarize, I love my mum.”

The 23-year-old Twitter user told WORLD OF BUZZ that this happened on the first day of Raya (6th June) when they were visiting Queensbay Mall in Penang. His mother began feeling pain in her feet. He told us,

“I really didn’t expect to wear my mum’s high heels. I only did it because she told me her feet were aching and at that time, I didn’t really see a nearby shop, so I decided to swap my sandals with her high heels.”

“I actually wanted to buy her a new pair of shoes but my father was rushing at that time, so I didn’t get her a pair.”

This is reportedly the first time Amrul has ever worn heels.

Aww! What a heartwarming gesture for a son to show his beloved mother! What do you think of this story? Let us know in the comments section!

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